For the conversations you’ve been putting off.
Untangle teaches couples how to fight better, so you can love stronger.
Built on 50 years of couples researchPrivate by designStart alone, free
Why now
Waiting is the expensive part.
Three numbers from fifty years of research on couples, and what they cost.
0 years
how long the average couple stays unhappy before talking to anyone about it
0%
of couple conflict never gets solved, leading to long-term resentment
$0
for one session of couples therapy, and it isn't there to solve the fight when it happens
The Untangle Method
We rebuild the sentence that starts the fight.
Five steps: observation, feeling, need, appreciation, request.
Watch what happens when you use Untangle.
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How the fight starts…
Same person. Same night. Same feeling. Different sentence.
Meet Tara.
Tara is your mediator. She’s built on the WinWin Conversations framework by Kamal Sarma, and on fifty years of research into how people actually hear each other.
How to courageously navigate your most challenging, complex and critical conversations through connection
The Art of
WINWIN
CONVERSATIONS
By Kamal Sarma
Built on the book
Tara runs on The Art of WinWin Conversations, the framework Kamal Sarma built over thirty years of mediation in real rooms: couples, hospitals, boardrooms. It began in a hospital room of his own, when one sentence changed how he understood listening.
It’s never about the dirty dishes.
The recurring fight is almost never about what it’s about. Underneath the small thing is a real need: to be seen, to come first, to get someone’s best hours instead of their leftovers. We shape the language of the conversation to help you say what you need.
the dishwasher, againphones at dinnerthe tone, not the wordswhat to eat, every single nightwho noticed the school formyour mother's commentsthe thermostatspending on little thingsworking late, againwho initiates
the sighweekends that fill themselveswhat 'I'm fine' actually meanskeeping scorethe fight about how we fightwhose tiredness counts morethe best hours going to workone-word answersthe thing from 2019who plans everything
First alone. Then together. Then the pattern.
Don’t take our word for it. Watch.
01
Untangle alone first.
Fifteen minutes with Tara to communicate what you couldn’t put into words. Watch a real untangle replay itself:
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Then untangle together.
We’re creating the first AI you use together, not alone.
Every other AI talks to one person at a time. Tara sits between the two of you. Your partner taps a link, and she focuses on ensuring you both get your needs met.
Ash
You booked our whole weekend without asking me. Again.
Jo
Because if I don’t plan it, we drift and the weekend just disappears.
You’re not fighting about the calendar. Ash wants to be asked; Jo doesn’t want the time to slip away. Jo, tell Ash what you just heard them say, in your own words.
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Then repair the pattern.
We’ve created a guide for the challenging chapters of your relationship, plus exercises therapists actually assign.
The Dream Beneath · from Gottman’s gridlock work
“What are you afraid would happen if you let this go?”
Tonight’s rule: nobody is allowed to solve anything. You’re interviewing, not persuading.
The Repair
Evening 3 of 6: The Dance
Then the decks and rituals keep it warm.
Most fights are two people reaching for the same thing.
To be seen. To be heard. To be valued. To have our needs met.
The small things add up. The unnoticed flowers, the sigh over the calendar, the thermostat war: every couple ends up with a cycle.
The couples who last aren’t the ones who escape the cycle. They’re the ones who learn its three beats.
Rupture. Repair. Renew.
Untangle won’t stop you from ever fighting again. Instead, we will teach you the art of communication, how to repair your relationship faster, and how to renew your love.
Rupture
The Untangle
You just fought, or you’re about to. Twenty minutes with Tara to work out what it’s really about, and how to say it.
Repair
The Repair
The honeymoon season is long gone. We’re here to bring it back through six guided evenings covering what couples therapy covers.
Renew
Renew
Nothing is wrong (now), and you want to keep it that way. Card decks, exercises, and a weekly ritual for the good weeks.
The promise
Praise in public.
Feedback in private.
What the two of you say here is the most personal kind of feedback there is. It is treated that way. We don’t listen to your calls. We don’t read your messages. You bring the conversation to us.
Never shared
Nothing said in an untangle is ever posted, shown, or sold to anyone outside it.
Yours alone
Live conversations run on your phones, not in our database, and are saved only when you choose to keep them.
Guarded by design
Encrypted in transit, protected by safety systems built so a private word stays private.
What could cost you $15,000 is $25 a month
The average US divorce runs about $15,000. A single couples session runs $150 to $318, and a year of weekly therapy $8,000 and up. Your relationship shouldn’t have to wait for either.
The Untangle membership
7 days free.
$25
/month after
A year of everything costs less than one therapy session. The first week costs nothing at all.
Your first untangle is free, before any card Nothing charged until day 8 Cancel anytime, in a tap A month that doesn’t serve you gets refunded Your partner’s seat is included, always
Unlimited untangles
Tara mediating, one phone or two
The Repair
Six evenings of what couples therapy teaches
Six Renew decks
Card games for the good nights
Ten guided exercises
The homework of couples therapy, lineage named on every card
The Weekly
The 20-minute meeting therapists assign first
The Session Brief
Your week on one page, for your therapist
The mid-fight Toolbox
Free for everyone, forever
Everything we ship next
New decks and exercises included
Frequently asked
Every reason not to, answered.
What actually is Untangle?+
A guided way to have the conversation you keep avoiding. Tara, an AI mediator, first helps you work out what the fight is really about and how to say it so it can be heard. Then you have the conversation with your partner, on one phone or two, while she keeps the turns fair on neither person’s side. It’s the trainable part of what couples therapy teaches, without the appointment.
Is this couples therapy?+
No, and we’ll never pretend it is. Therapy diagnoses and treats. We teach the trainable part: how to say the hard thing, and how to actually hear it. If you’re in crisis or in danger, Tara stops and points you to real human help immediately.
Why would this work when talking already doesn’t?+
Because most couples aren’t short on talking, they’re short on being heard. The whole method rebuilds the sentence that starts the fight into one your partner can take in, and then it asks the one question most arguments never reach: did you feel heard? That single shift is the point of everything here.
Why not just use ChatGPT?+
Because ChatGPT is on your side, and that’s the problem. It hears one version of the fight, yours, and agrees with it. Untangle runs your words through a real framework: the eight connection pitfalls, the Three Yeses, the five-step sentence. It will tell you when you’re the one breaking connection. A mirror that agrees with you isn’t a mediator.
Does my partner have to be into it?+
No. You don’t need their permission, their download, or their buy-in. Most people start alone: you untangle your own side first, and bring them in only when you’re ready. When you do, they tap a link, nothing to download, and it all happens in their browser. In our experience the eye-roll doesn’t survive the first ten minutes.
What if we start fighting in the middle of it?+
Tara watches the temperature and slows the room down before it floods. You’ll never be pushed through a heated argument, and the mid-fight tools (a shared time-out signal, repair phrases, a timer) are free, always.
Isn’t seven days too short to fix anything?+
You’re not fixing a relationship in a week. You’re finding out whether a different kind of conversation is even possible with this person, and in seven days most people find that it is. The membership is for what comes after: the slow, ordinary work of a relationship that lasts. Start the week, keep what helps.
What if I don’t like it?+
Then you pay nothing. The first untangle is free, the week is free, and you can cancel from your account before it renews, no call, no hoops. Do all six evenings of The Repair and still not fight better? Every dollar back, no questions, no forms. We can promise that because the method is older than we are.
Is what we say private?+
Yes. Your words are yours. Live conversations run on your phones, not our servers, and are saved only when you choose to keep them. Nothing is shared with your partner until you share it, nothing is ever used to train AI models, and you can export or delete all of it any time.
Have the conversation.
Start free, on your own. Bring someone in when you’re ready.
Begin a conversation